Relationship Destroyer

#1 JamiNeesie

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Posted 25 July 2008 - 10:48 PM

Jocelyn-
I am so terribly sorry you are going through all of this!!! I hope things work out the way you want them in the end...but I do think most or all of us understand how this can affect a relationship, be it romantic, platonic, or familial. It's hard when you feel like the person you are supposed to trust most and is supposed to understand you the most just doesn't get it. I've been telling my "boyfriend" or whatever he is at the moment (bc of my emotional roller coaster along with other problems...we have been having our own problems as well) that "it hurts". He asks what hurts.....I realize I really have no answer for this, it just hurts, everything hurts, but I can't explain it. It's really hard!!! It's great to find a place like this where others can support you (which still is no replacement for a significant other to really be there). I hope that he, or someone else, can be there to support you and at least try to understand and be there for you!!! Best of luck! Keep us posted!

#2 LowMo

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Posted 14 September 2008 - 07:47 AM

jocelyn said:

I've been reading through some old posts, and it looks like other people have had experience with relationships being destroyed because of the withdrawal. Last night my boyfriend and I broke up. He hasn't been able to understand the withdrawal process, and told me that he is unhappy with the way things have been going in our relationship (i.e. I don't feel like I want to go out and drink, or be very social). He said that he liked the person he met when I was on the drugs, but not so much the person I am now. He also said that I have nothing to be sad about...my life is great.
I know that my life is great. I can't help feeling sad. Probably the person that I was when I met him is not how I really am, because I was medicated.
Not that I told him any of those things. It's kind of a relief to be out of this relationship, because I can have more time to focus on myself instead of worrying about how he is going to react to everything I say and do. Not to mention that I have felt emotionally and sexually dead since week 1 of the withdrawal. A month later, and that aspect of withdrawal hasn't changed.

Just needed to get that off my chest. Anyone else have a relationship fall apart because a partner couldn't understand what they are going through?

Jocelyn-

I am sorry that I did not see your post until a few months later. I hope that whether you are single right now, or not, that you are surrounding yourself with people that may not understand what is going on, but people that care enough about you to try.
I had a relationship end horrible while I was first trying to go off of the Cymbalta. I think you can seach how I broke up with satan on here to find the story (I am kidding, but the story is on her). Yes, there is definitely no level of understanding between the unexplainable pain and the very very ver low sex drive. The girl Iam with now thinks I find her horribly unattractive because a lot of times the pain is just so great that I want to take an ambien and sleep. I love her, but I know I can't provide her with everything she would like right now.

Perhaps we shouldn't be in relationships while experiencing all this crap?? I don't know.

#3 Junior

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I am a sufferer of depression and GAD. After 20 years of suffering with undiagnosed GAD (to be fair to the medical profession, it wasn't in the DSM back then) I stumbled upon Aropax following a bout of depression. Having had the therapy I badly needed at the time, I came good and did well on Aropax for 11 years. Last year I started having difficulty with sleeping and thought I was suffering the poop out effect, so I switched to Lexapro. A few months later I realised it was causing me more problems than it was solving so my GP agreed to give me a referral to a psychiatrist - so we could work out the best medicine for me. Nearly 3 weeks on Cymbalta and I've stopped already. I've had restlessness, increased insomnia (I now recognise that there is more to that), an inability to concentrate (the opposite of the real me) and nausea. I want to converse with others who are going through the same issues with medication.

Posted 06 March 2010 - 06:02 PM

Sara, on 06 March 2010 - 03:15 AM, said:

My husband is on 120mg of Cymbalta now he has become aggresive, suicidal, been arrested by the police due to getting into altications. This is not my husband. He's a proffesionally educated 40 something with young children. He's never smoked done drugs only drinks special occasions etc. This drug is wrecking my marriage. I'm trying to get him to come off it which is a bit difficult as he is living at a different address. I want him to quit the drugs and use other forms of therapy diet etc to ease his depression any advise much appreciated

Hi Sara

How does he feel about coming off Cymbalta? I ask because it's no good trying to get him to do this unless he is onboard. If he is, then the best thing is to wean slowly. The general recommendation is to drop the dose in increments of 10% then wait 3-6 for any withdrawal effects to settle before reducing the dose further. I know this means it will take a while, but it is the most effective method.

Good luck
Junior