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[invalidusername]

Not the one's through the NHS, but getting an appointment takes a very long - typically 6 to 9 months. And that is only once you have gone through two previous procedures of being thought suitable enough to need to see one.

 

After that, you are not able to speak directly to them again and must go through a useless case worker who never keeps in touch. 

 

This is why people who can, pay for mental health.

 

Since I have been here, there have been 4 other people from the UK - all of which have said the same thing about the NHS Mental Health service. It is a joke!

[KathyInFL]

I'm totally off Cymbalta for almost a year now. I will have to re-read it to see my timeline since I did start this thread almost 3 years ago.

 

Am I better? I wish I could say I am. The brain zaps are gone, but the depression is still here. Maybe it's the holidays that are coming up that causes/continues my depression? The fatigue is still here. All I want to do is sleep and eat.

 

I had a fairly major surgery in September to try to stop some of the same side effects that C causes, maybe it's rebound depression from the anesthesiology drugs? I am 98% recovered from surgery. Those who want to know what kind it was, please PM me, I'm not keeping it a secret, I just don't want to splash it all over the internet.

 

I'm bored with my life, I don't like my job only because it's not busy enough for me. Remember I'm older, 63, almost 64, I lost my job a year ago and I've been consulting with a former client but it's turned into a part time remote job. I'm not good with remote work. I have another part time client stating in February, and I am dreading it. Why am I projecting negative feelings onto this? I really would like a full time job in my city, but I feel I'm too old to interview and get a job like that.

 

I really need a life! All I do is sleep and read the internet. How do I find hobbies/friends at this stage in my life? 

 

Thanks to those who read this far! 

 

 

 

 

[invalidusername]

Hi Kathy - been a while... and good to hear from you.

 

I think the way you are feeling has a lot to do with what LDN was saying the other day about this being the age of instant gratification. Whether we want it or not, we are reminded of it everywhere we look. It is so difficult to find peace with the smallest things and time just with ourselves. It is difficult to finds friends as they are all on the Internet. Their friends are their iPads, their smartphones and the like... they don't have time for real friends.

 

Over here things such as evening classes would be the most recommended - this way you find people immediately with your interests and you have a guaranteed appointment with them every week. 

 

Wish you well dear fruit...

[fishinghat]

Just a note Kathy but if you had surgery for removal of your gall bladder long term effects like this are common. No need to respond here if you do not wish. If there is anything I can try and research for you let me k now.

If you are off the C about a year then there is still time for more improvement. You may still see some gains over the next 1 to 2 years.

My prayers are with you dear Kathy. I am so sorry you are still suffering.

[Bent4Now]

KathyinFL,

in response to your question about finding a hobby have you considered joining a gym, such as a YMCA? I know the Y in my town has a variety of exercise classes from easy to difficult. In addition there are a variety age groups in the classes. Once you join the classes are unlimited, at least in my town.

 

Another option might be to find out if there are any colleges that offer continuing education classes that do not count towards a degree. Some of those type classes are focused on hobbies and you may meet people with similar interests.  

 

I would also encourage you to look for that full time job in the city if it is what you really want to do.  Even though you believe you are too old, I believe some employers prefer mature dependable workers.  You really have nothing to lose by applying and interviewing for jobs; however, you may have a lot to gain if it truly makes you happy. Also, unemployment is at very low rate in a lot of cities.

[KathyInFL]

I told the contracting firm that I don't want to take on the job starting in February, I feel like a total poop. But I found out that the contract isn't signed yet, so they were holding onto me without a contract. 

 

I have a company interested in me for FT work, but they won't hire me if I'm contracting, which I am doing with a client in Texas. The Texas client just renewed my contract until the end of February. I think I'm going to tell them I'm done after February so I can concentrate on finding a FT job.

 

Thanks for the post Bent4Now!  Appreciate it!

[invalidusername]

No way you can get out of the contract and take this FT job now? Save the stress of having to find another one when contract ends?

 

Am self-employed, but never do contract work - everything is always under my terms!! LOL

 

Good to hear from you, and hope things aren't too stressful for you over there in Florida.

[KathyInFL]

No way you can get out of the contract and take this FT job now? Save the stress of having to find another one when contract ends?

 

Am self-employed, but never do contract work - everything is always under my terms!! LOL

 

Good to hear from you, and hope things aren't too stressful for you over there in Florida.

 

I could tell the current client I'm done with them, but I don't like to go back on my word. I've been working with them for a year and do like them.

 

I didn't want to do the new contract at all that was starting in February, so I'm glad I found out this contract wasn't really signed so I could tell them no without much guilt.  I will probably hear from them again. I have issues saying no and sticking to my decisions.

[invalidusername]

 I have issues saying no and sticking to my decisions.

 

I know that one very well!!

 

Do what you have to, and we'll hope for the best for you!