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#1 robyn_amber

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Posted 17 June 2008 - 01:08 PM

I've been keep the withdrawal journal in another thread. But, I wanted to say that I've had different reactions from different friends and family. Some of them have shocked me, because this has been my own personal hell. I have been giving friends and family the link to that journal so that they can understand what I've been going through. I've had the following reactions:

im too busy to read whats going on but aww ... *hugs* :) ... get better! ;) - This one caught me off guard. I was right in the middle of the worst of it when a friend told me this. He really didn't care. But, he didn't know the extreme issues I was having, so I'm trying very hard not to judge him for that. I did feel abandoned, though. Also, interestingly enough, I haven't heard from him since he left me that message on MSN.

Some friend I have been. I had no idea what you were going through. I hope you are feeling better very soon. - This friend is so sweet. He took the time to read the link I gave, and then was truly concerned. This guy is a keeper. ^.^ Also, it's not his fault that he didn't know. I wasn't telling most people what all my life had been for about a year.

Call me anytime, day or night. - Several of my family has said this. And I've actually called them when I need them, too. They meant it, and I've had good support from these people.

Basically, the support has covered the spectrum from "I don't care" to "What can I do to help you today?" I try hard not to fault the people who seem uncaring. It is, afterall, my own experience, and if they haven't been through it, then they really don't know how it is. I hope if you have people in your life that seem to not care, give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they do care, but don't know how to express it or deal with it. One other reaction I've had is the people that are trying hard to be understanding, but they just don't get it. They care, but they really just don't understand what it's all about and think (without realizing they are thinking this) that I should be fine now. Just know that you deserve full support, and it's not your fault if you don't get it from some.

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#2 schmb01

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Posted 18 June 2008 - 04:45 PM

Thanks for sharing those thoughts, and for being able to see where others just don't "get" it. I think most people don't intend to be insenstive, yet they just don't know what to do, and it is almost like ignoring the elephant in the room sometimes. It sounds like you have some wonderful support from friends and family, and boy, you really need it when you are dealing with this. It sounds like you are feeling better too, and I am really glad to hear that. :lol:



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