WORST CRAP I EVER TRIED!!
The most destabilizing and debilitating emotion is fear. Fear leaps into your chest-- a monster within-- grasping, teeth and claws; fear makes babes of warriors. The threat may be real: a Grizzly Bear appears in front of you on a remote trail in the Rockies; a shadow slides across the wall in the bedroom; a white van speeds down the street and your 4-year-old little girl is no longer on the lawn.
The threat may be imagined, or it may be dreamed: you're at home alone reading a Stephen King novel, it's midnight and there's a storm brewing. Suddenly you get a chill and your mind runs away and your heart begins to pound. Or you leap bolt-upright in bed in the grip of a horrible nightmare! You're covered in sweat, heart pounding, panting, eyes searching.
Fear can rise from either a real, an imagined, or a dreamed threat-- your mind can't tell the difference. If it knew the difference it would only react to the real threat. We can accept this fact because it has been with us since birth, "Oh thank God that wasn't real!"
But then there's anxiety.
Anxiety arrives in the centre of our being without an apparent source-- it just rises, a serpent out of placid water. It doesn't feel external, it's you. It renders confidence into quicksand and the aria of bravado into a whimper. It's the singularity of death suspended; you are it and it is you. Everything is lost! Every anxiety attack puts you back to square one. The anxiety sufferer is in a constant state of emotional re-construction.
"Maybe . . . there is a beast . . .
What I mean is . . . maybe it's only us."
William Golding, Lord of the Flies
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain"
Frank Herbert, Dune
Kids, keep your anxiety down; it's the first priority.