Hey there, INR, sooooo good to hear from you!
And, even though you may not feel it as you write it, I can see a lot of positives and progress in your post!
Your husband is in the grip of serotonin depletion ...serotonin, and he needs to learn about this, is a powerful brain chemical, it's deeply involved in the Central Nervous System, and the CNS regulates just about every bodily and mental function ... every single symptom he's having is due to a shortage of serotonin ... becuz he quit the Cymbalta cold turkey ... remember, Cymbalta is a "serotonin booster" and the brain gets "addicted" to that boost ... when it's removed too rapidly, all hell breaks loose ...
And yet, despite all hell having broken loose, in the midst of it, your husband has begun taking positive steps ..that's wonderful.... and encouraging and hopeful ... he didn't survive 3 wars without having some major survival and coping skills ... seems like he's slowly learning that those same skills apply to surviving the crapalta war!
How long has he been cold turkey at this point? Do you think he's had enuf of the suffering that he'd be willing to listen to us, and go back on, get stable, and then do the bead counting method?
I also think, others here can chime in if they disagree, that it would be an excellent thing for him to go to the hospital ... to make the decision to do so on his own... it was very positive that he told all this to you...
Now, back to you ... it's clear you've had your own hell at the hands of these types of drugs, and yep, you've experienced the withdrawal hell he's going through.
You need to reach out to get some support for yourself. If you don't drive, does your daughter? Is there any way you could get to appointments with a therapist in your area? Does the VA have any resources available? Or, would it help to have me identify the names / locations of some private therapists and/or support groups for you?
If not, the best option is this and the other online forums that deal with the things you're dealing with ... also, there are telephone help lines, and I've recently learned that there are some "Skype forums" ... how the hell that works, I don't know ... but again, I'd be happy to look into any of these options for you ...
Just remember, as FH said, physical violence is NOT acceptable ... and you are NOT to allow yourself or your daughter to be the victim(s) of it. Call 911 immediately if it gets to that point.
Prayers continue! Keep reading everything you can here, especially about the symptoms, and supplements, nutrition, etc... and keep posting!