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#1 thismoment

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Posted 12 April 2014 - 07:13 AM

Depression, and certainly anxiety often relate to separation. It's an injury of separation that's perpetuated by more separation, but it's healed within the environment of contact.

 

We often sabotage the opportunity for healing by driving loved ones away! We say, "Just stay away, I can deal with this myself. I don't want to destroy anyone else's life!" The truth is, we're making both lives worse by creating separation where healing can't possibly take place.

 

Therefore, we need to create strategies to foster contact.

 

When we are in pain we hug ourselves, the pillow, the fuzzy bear, the terrycloth monkey.  We say, "I'm trying to get ahold of it . . . trying to get a handle on it." We express a yearning for containment and contact. And we say, "I'm holding on," yet there is no one in our arms.

 

Often it has to start with an apology, which usually travels paired with a promise.

 

Find a way back into those arms where the real medicine is.


#2 Carleeta

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Posted 12 April 2014 - 08:51 PM

No truer words have been spoken...

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Posted 29 October 2016 - 03:33 PM

Depression, and certainly anxiety often relate to separation. It's an injury of separation that's perpetuated by more separation, but it's healed within the environment of contact.
 
We often sabotage the opportunity for healing by driving loved ones away! We say, "Just stay away, I can deal with this myself. I don't want to destroy anyone else's life!" The truth is, we're making both lives worse by creating separation where healing can't possibly take place.
 
Therefore, we need to create strategies to foster contact.
 
When we are in pain we hug ourselves, the pillow, the fuzzy bear, the terrycloth monkey.  We say, "I'm trying to get ahold of it . . . trying to get a handle on it." We express a yearning for containment and contact. And we say, "I'm holding on," yet there is no one in our arms.
 
Often it has to start with an apology, which usually travels paired with a promise.
 
Find a way back into those arms where the real medicine is.


Wanted to bring this back up! Thismoment, we miss your words of wisdom.

#4 Ajax

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Posted 30 October 2016 - 05:36 PM

This is very wise and a good reminder for me.  Right now my dear husband is driving me nuts and I have to keep remember he is trying to help me and being irritable is one of the symptoms of the withdrawal. I want to just avoid him, but I think Thismoment has a really good point.





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