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#1 FiveNotions

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Posted 11 October 2014 - 05:44 PM

I've been searching back through our archives to find any / all previous threads started by spouses, friends and /or family asking how to help their loved ones who are in Cymbalta withdrawal.
 
Here are the ones I've found so far ... I'll keep adding to the list as I find them. If you find something, please toss it in here to add to the collection ....

Help me understand and help him
https://www.cymbalta...d-and-help-him/

Spouse Is Withdrawing, What Can I Do?
https://www.cymbalta...g-what-can-i-do

Help! I ” Don't Get It”
https://www.cymbalta...-”-dont-get-it”

I Just Love My Wife
https://www.cymbalta...st-love-my-wife

Family of Cymbalta Victims
https://www.cymbalta...ymbalta-victims

Desperate Husband
https://www.cymbalta...sperate-husband

I'm Scared for my Boyfriend
https://www.cymbalta...or-my-boyfriend

Hell Of Cymbalta Withdrawal For My Wife
https://www.cymbalta...wal-for-my-wife

Advice Please [wife of veteran with PTSD]
https://www.cymbalta...e/?hl=boyfriend

Cymbalta Cold Turkey - Husband Is Mean
https://www.cymbalta...husband-is-mean

Outside Looking In
https://www.cymbalta...side-looking-in

Very Concerned
https://www.cymbalta...-very-concerned

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 09:19 AM

Here are links to some discussions / threads on this topic from other online forums ... there's a ton of useful information in them.
 
Just a bit of a warning, unlike our "Family Support" topic / threads, which are generally upbeat and positive, some of these other forums and threads are pretty darn blunt, contain some very direct/pointed advice and moderator comments, and stories that did not end well ... suicides, tragic car accidents, self-harm ...
 
PaxilProgress.org
http://www.paxilprogress.org
  • Forum: "Family Support" -- Paxil affects whole families. This forum is to support those closest to our hearts (spouses, partners, brothers, sisters etc.) who need help to understand and support. http://www.paxilprog...e55ee65d4ae&f=8
SurvivingAntidepressants.org
http://survivingantidepressants.org
  • Forum: "Family and Friends" -- main forum, with lots of content, mostly from the perspective of those in withdrawal, but many also from spouses, friends and family asking how to help. http://survivinganti...ly-and-friends/
DepressionForums.org
http://www.depressionforums.org/
  • Forum: "Mental Health: Families and Caregivers" -- A forum for support for families and caregivers to discuss their issues caring for a loved one with a mental illness. Many studies of family caregiving have found mixed findings in evaluating the effectiveness of community services in reducing family caregiver stress. In addition, the study also showed that some of the caregiver has limited experience in obtaining care. http://www.depressio...and-caregivers/
Thread: Supporting Husband While He Tapers [husband turned violent]
                          http://www.depressio...hile-he-tapers/

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 09:09 PM

I'm glad I logged back on. I do appreciate the work you put into finding these, NF - sincerely. Speaking for myself, I was not looking for advice (though I was honest that I didn't know what I needed, so that wasn't helpful), but it became clearer I just wanted some sort of support, which is an entirely different thing. I don't know how things turned out for all these couples in the links you've provided, but I'm going to read through with lots of hope. Tonight, my poor, sweet, currently tortured husband is snoring beside me and that's all I can hope for today. I'm sticking with him through this. He needs me and I need him. I'm sorry for all the anger.

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 09:33 PM

Distraught, so happy you're still with us! Yes, do read through some of those threads ... not all, you'll get overloaded ... and you need lots and lots of rest, as well as your husband... :)
 
That's one heck of a great progress report that he's snoring right beside you! Of course you're sticking with him... and you and he are both going to get through this ... it just takes time ... if you can learn what you need to know here about what he's going through, and what we've done to deal with the various symptoms, etc., you'll be able to offer him the help and support he needs ... without pushing him or adding pressure ... ;)
 
What would really really help us help you ... and to help your husband through you ... would be for you to check in here regularly to tell us what specific symptoms he's having ... physical and emotional ...
 
why don't you start a brand new thread for yourself ... in the "Family Support Forum," where this thread is. https://www.cymbalta...family-support/

(Forget about the first one you started, that got all tangled up. Let's just leave that behind and move forward :D)....

In your first post in your new thread, give us all the basic facts about your husband and Cymbalta... dose levels, when he started, when he changed dose levels, when he stopped cold turkey, etc. Just those basic facts in the first paragraph or so. Then, give us another paragraph or two with specific info on what symptoms he's been having ... emotional and physical ...

We'll start just by focusing just on him ... what you can do to help him ... then, after we get you squared away with the "how to take care of my husband" part ... which is the core of what's going on ... we can try to give you some perspective on what it feels like, subjectively, to be in withdrawal ... from our own experience... the key is to get him feeling better ... then, by definition, your relationship will get better ... :hug:

You'll get a lot of info and insight, and encouragement, from reading a few of the threads above ... but as I said, don't overload.

You must take excellent care of yourself during this process ... eat right, get as much sleep as possible, stay in touch with friends and family, etc...

 

and be sure to get yourself hooked up with a therapist ... but, as I said the other day, not a psychiatrist ...they are just pill pushers ... most of us here who have therapists have either psychologists or licensed clinical social workers .... give some thought also to whether you'd feel more comfortable with a male or a female ... a male might have more insight into your husband's way of dealing with this, but a woman would be more in tune with your needs ... (I'm showing my bias there, I apologize... I could never open up to a man, always had to have a woman.)

 

Hang in there! And savor that oh so sweet sound of hubby snoring right there next to you :P


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Posted 13 October 2014 - 09:11 PM

How's your husband doing today, Distraught? And how about you?


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Posted 14 October 2014 - 04:37 PM

Hi, D;) I just saw your post...CymSik, here! I hate that name now, had no idea I would become a regular on this site, so when I chose that name I WAS Cymbalta Sick...missed typing the c, too! So, decided on ShadyLady;)

Glad to see you check in;) Do any of us really know what we're looking for from this forum when we join? My reasons change from day to day, from offering compassion to venting to get the garbage out of my head. I feel better after I vent, whether here or to a close friend. Not looking for answers necessarily, sometimes there aren't any...same with advice, I know for the most part what I need to do, I mostly feel I need the compassion and others' experiences to not feel so alone in the aftermath of the CYM damage!

How are you doing? I was so happy to read 'hubby snoring next to me.' How is he feeling? I am praying for peace and healing for you both...you are dear soul that is committed to your hubby and I am hopeful there have been some better days to offset the bad ones. He will get better, it is that word, Time, that is the hardest to accept in the thick of the withdrawal!

Again, I am happy to see that you posted and hope you will stay on board here and get the compassion & support that I know you need & richly deserve. No one signed up for this awful trip, not the ones prescribed the poison or their loved ones who have to carry the load in caring for them through the long withdrawal. God bless you, sweet soul, for your commitment to your hubby! He is blessed to have you and he will be thankful for all your support and care soon! You must believe this, we are awful and can only feel our own misery in the first couple months of withdrawal, or at least I was:(. Better days are coming soon, my Warrior Woman!!

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Posted 15 October 2014 - 07:46 PM

Have had two really, really good days. :) Thank you both for checking. Neither of us slept well last night due to the leg pain, so I'm fading fast now, but we were both in the same bed, so I'll take this exhaustion happily! Thank you so much for the thoughts and prayers. I am so grateful for these past two days!!!

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    Needed understanding and support, and a place where I was not alone. To read others stories and realizing that I was not the only one going through all that crap.
    In hope that one day, I can return the favors in some kind of way.

Posted 15 June 2018 - 08:16 AM

I've been searching back through our archives to find any / all previous threads started by spouses, friends and /or family asking how to help their loved ones who are in Cymbalta withdrawal. Here are the ones I've found so far ... I'll keep adding to the list as I find them. If you find something, please toss it in here to add to the collection ....Help me understand and help himhttps://www.cymbalta...d-and-help-him/Spouse Is Withdrawing, What Can I Do?https://www.cymbalta...g-what-can-i-doHelp! I ” Don't Get It”https://www.cymbalta...-”-dont-get-it”I Just Love My Wifehttps://www.cymbalta...st-love-my-wifeFamily of Cymbalta Victimshttps://www.cymbalta...ymbalta-victimsDesperate Husbandhttps://www.cymbalta...sperate-husbandI'm Scared for my Boyfriendhttps://www.cymbalta...or-my-boyfriendHell Of Cymbalta Withdrawal For My Wifehttps://www.cymbalta...wal-for-my-wifeAdvice Please [wife of veteran with PTSD]https://www.cymbalta...e/?hl=boyfriendCymbalta Cold Turkey - Husband Is Meanhttps://www.cymbalta...husband-is-meanOutside Looking Inhttps://www.cymbalta...side-looking-inVery Concernedhttps://www.cymbalta...-very-concerned


So good to see that big blue eye. Bringing this back up!

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Posted 15 June 2018 - 09:12 AM

Great idea Gail. I really miss that lady. What a jewel.

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    In hope that one day, I can return the favors in some kind of way.

Posted 15 June 2018 - 03:17 PM

Oh yes she was indeed. Such a warm heart with everyone. FiveNotions, you hear us??



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